Finally! After nine long months of expecting, your bundle of joy has arrived. Everyone has been treating you like a queen, you’ve been prepped like an athlete, you’ve given birth and then … what?
1: Let go of the baby you fantasized about and welcome the actual child in to your life, and most importantly, embrace the reality that you have a fully distinct human being who has particular needs that are not always easy to understand.
2: You will feel an overwhelming ocean of love, but also a little person that needs his mummy 24 hours a day. So adapt, pace yourself and give yourself time to get this right. You don’t become a mother overnight.
3: Having a baby is exhausting, and you can say it! This doesn’t make you a bad mother, quite the opposite. Don’t give in to hypocrisy, become more responsible and seek help if you need.
4: Maternal struggles remain taboo because we still receive a false, glorified image of newborns, what they need and the legendary glamorous mothers out there. Break free from this taboo. Scream it out loud. Yes, being a mum isn’t a walk in the park, but that doesn’t take away from the beauty of these feelings. Dare to seek help just as you did to deliver your baby.
5: Enjoy every moment you have with your newborn and with proper help (maybe your husband, a relative, your helper, a friend or a psychologist), you can get some energy back, relax, learn to handle your emotions, feel confident and re-fuel with someone who is there to listen.