Peace of mind after giving birth
- Written by arounddb
Finally! After nine long months of expecting, your bundle of joy is finally here. Everyone has been treating you like a queen, you’ve been prepped like an athlete, you’ve given birth and then…. oh yeah, then what?
Very often I hear mums telling me that they were so focused on their pregnancy and on the task of giving birth that they didn't actually plan beyond that, as if the birth in itself was the end of the journey.
The first step in life with your little one is letting go of the baby you fantasized about and welcoming the actual child in to your life, as well as the reality that you have a fully distinct human being who has particular needs that are not always easy to understand.
It results in an overwhelming ocean of love, but also a little person that needs his mummy 24 hours a day. So we need to adapt, tame ourselves and give ourselves time. You don’t become a mother overnight.
Yes, you can say it. Having a baby is exhausting, but this doesn’t make us bad mothers, quite the opposite. Don’t give in to hypocrisy, become more responsible and present for your child by seeking out help.
Maternal struggles remain taboo because we still receive a false, glorified image of newborns, what they need and the legendary glamorous mothers out there.
New mother Lucy never thought “it would be so wonderful but also extremely hard”.
“All the emotions were multiplied by 20,” Lucy said.
“I was surprised to see that I was always worried, even though I always considered myself to be a laidback person. I would start worrying at the sight of the slightest redness on her bottom, by her first cold or the slightest cough. Everything was so new and unknown. I was responsible for a life, and all the more - my daughter's.”
Another mum, Julie, surprised herself with the amount of dark thoughts that came to her at certain times.
“Even when I was simply walking in the street, I would worry that something could happen to her and even have nightmares about it,” Julie said.
Break free from this taboo. Scream it out loud. Yes, being a mum isn’t a walk in the park, but that doesn’t take away from the beauty of these feelings. Dare to seek help just as you did to deliver your baby.
With the proper help, you can get some energy back, relax, learn to handle your emotions, feel confident and re-fuel with someone who is there to listen.
It won’t give you false ideas of motherhood, but it will allow you to become the mother that you want to be.
Aude Mahoudeau Campoyer has just opened a dedicated centre for future mums and their babies in Discovery Bay.
The Centre for Pregnancy & Newborn offers childbirth preparation classes, pre and post-natal yoga and pre and post-natal support sophrology sessions.
There is a certified nutritionist, a certified doula and group sharing sessions with a psychologist, as well as numerous other activities. Sessions can be held in both in English and in French.
The centre is in the process of launching the first "Bellies Meet Up" And "Mummy Meet Up" meetings, to be held every Monday. The meetings offer a chance to meet ladies, express concerns, ask questions and get answers from a different qualified expert in pregnancy and newborns each week.
A doula, a sophrologist, a nutritionist, a psychologist and a physiotherapist will answer your questions and guide you through this beautiful path of maternity.