5 tips for first-time mums
- Written by Aude Mahoudeau Campoyer, DB Centre for Pregnancy and Newborns, 30 October 2015
Finally! After nine long months of expecting, your bundle of joy has arrived. Everyone has been treating you like a queen, you’ve been prepped like an athlete, you’ve given birth and then ... what?
1: Let go of the baby you fantasized about and welcome the actual child in to your life, and most importantly, embrace the reality that you have a fully distinct human being who has particular needs that are not always easy to understand.
2: You will feel an overwhelming ocean of love, but also a little person that needs his mummy 24 hours a day. So adapt, pace yourself and give yourself time to get this right. You don’t become a mother overnight.
3: Having a baby is exhausting, and you can say it! This doesn’t make you a bad mother, quite the opposite. Don’t give in to hypocrisy, become more responsible and seek help if you need.
4: Maternal struggles remain taboo because we still receive a false, glorified image of newborns, what they need and the legendary glamorous mothers out there. Break free from this taboo. Scream it out loud. Yes, being a mum isn’t a walk in the park, but that doesn’t take away from the beauty of these feelings. Dare to seek help just as you did to deliver your baby.
5: Enjoy every moment you have with your newborn and with proper help (maybe your husband, a relative, your helper, a friend or a psychologist), you can get some energy back, relax, learn to handle your emotions, feel confident and re-fuel with someone who is there to listen.